People make a lot of assumptions about women. Sure, we are smaller than men, and we have less muscle mass, but does that translate to automatically losing a fight? The short answer is “no.” The long answer is “only if you’ve been trained and know what you’re doing.”
Unless we get involved in heavy lifting in the gym and become, we cannot match the strength of even a average sized man, so we have to find ways around this problem. If a man gets a woman in a rear naked choke, it’s safe to assume she cannot muscle her way out that hold. But, that doesn’t mean all is lost.
As you can see above, my hand is significantly smaller than my husband’s hand. I cannot out do him in thumb wrestling, arm wrestling, or any kind wrestling for that matter. Believe me, I’ve tried. When trying certain techniques in the dojo, sometimes my hands are just to small to get a good grip on whatever body part I’m holding onto. That can be frustrating when I’m trying for that tap out and my uke is just lying there saying “Twist my arm more.”
Geez guys, have you seen my tiny princess hand?
My training teaches me how to exploit weaknesses inherent in all human bodies (There are a very few exceptions to this, I know a guy who barely feels pain. I can twist his wrist till the cows come and he’ll just be laying there smiling at me). This gives me an advantage I might not otherwise have if I was ever attacked in real life. It’s surprising to me that so much pain can be produced with so little effort.
The concept of “work smarter, not harder” becomes handy to us smaller, weaker females when we know how to hurt you. We can pinch, gouge, poke, prod, twist, strike, scratch, or whatever those places you didn’t know could hurt like that. We don’t have to wrestle you to the ground, we don’t have to muscle our way out of a grab, we just have to know where to strike and how to make it hurt more.
It’s best not to make assumptions.
The Modern Kunoichi 